We are now officially engaged!
We were waiting until the boyfriend (now fiance–it’s going to take me awhile to get used to saying/writing that!) got a job to get engaged. Well guess what. He got a job about 3 weeks ago, and he just started this past Thursday! The day before he started work, he made a special early-morning trip to see me before I headed in to my current internship.
The only issue left is that we are both rather poor at the moment. Moving costs, rent, deposit fees on a new apartment, school loans and everything else meant that if we wanted to get a “typical” engagement ring, have a “typical” wedding, and go on a “typical” honeymoon….we would be waiting another year and a half before we got married. After 5+ years, neither of us wanted that. I came up with a solution.
Although “traditional” engagement rings can be beautiful, they can also be a bit boring. All silver and a plain, clear diamond. True it is shiny and beautiful in its own way, but I gravitate towards more colourful and interesting jewelry. I especially like vintage and vintage-inspired jewelry. Despite liking more non-traditional jewelry, I do want my engagement ring to be easily recognized for what it is, and not just because of its placement on my hand.
Combining our mutual poorness and my interest in unique jewelry, I suggested that he buy me an inexpensive, interesting, vintage-style ring. (He agreed, on the caveat that he is able to buy me a more “typical” engagement ring later when he is less poor.) I gave him a few more hints, such as the fact that I especially like Victorian era-esque jewelry.
Here is what he came up with:
The announcement as posted on Facebook:
We’re [finally] engaged! After 5+ years, two job offers in the same town, and a pending graduation, we decided to not wait until we were rich enough (or at least not poor enough) to afford a fancy ring, big wedding, and extravagant honeymoon. For now we have a cute, vintage-style ring (much more my style, anyway), and a small wedding and cozy honeymoon to plan for the not-so-distant future. Oh, and each other. 🙂
I promise to not turn this into a wedding planning blog. Honestly, the majority of the planning seems like a headache. And the whole wedding and reception thing seems like the perfect way to invite everyone to judge you and your taste. Maybe I don’t want the “traditional” open-bar and dance floor. Maybe I don’t want the “traditional” 10 bridesmaids in matching dresses. Maybe I don’t want a 5-tier fondant wedding cake that tastes like styrofoam but looks beautiful. Maybe I don’t want to guilt people into feeling like they have to monetarily quantify their fondness of me through a wedding present.
Ok, rant over. The main point is: we’re finally engaged! We are very fortunate in so many things. And finally, although suggestions are welcome, I refuse to let people tell me how I should do my wedding. 🙂
Oh, and I know the style of wedding dress I want. Now just to find it in my price range… 🙂
I would share photos, but my boyfriend–no!–fiance sometimes reads my posts….